Partnering in Marriage:

Love & Understanding

Do you keep having the same arguments again & again?

Do you say "we need to learn to communicate"

Do you feel lost and don't know how to make your relationship better?

Do you crave a deeper connection?

Do you feel that your partner never wants to talk about your relationship?

Do you keep thoughts and feelings inside because you fear that sharing will cause an argument? 

Have you been hurt and struggle to repair your hurt?

If so, you are in the right place. This course is to guide you toward creating a deepened connection in your relationship.

I learned very quickly in my work as a therapist that couples benefit from learning how to stay in love, learning how to connect, learning how to communicate, and gain self-awareness & insight. I have created this course to guide you to learn all of these necessary tools to grow your relationship! 

Based on over two decades of work with couples, teaching college students and focus of study on relationships in my doctoral program - I have created this course for you. 

Learning with Movie Clips!

I mentioned learning with movie clips and I would like to share a New York Times Article with you. The article discusses research about the benefit of watching movies to strengthen a relationship!

What you will receive: 

  ~ 24 lessons divided into 6 units

  ~ 10 exclusive podcasts, I discuss various relationship topics such as: understanding what is the real meaning behind hurtful words, repairing and rebuilding trust after you've been hurt, the impact of technology on relationships, roadblocks to empathy and discussion on loneliness in marriage ...just to name a few. 

   ~ Online quizzes to gain self-awareness, assessing trust in your relationship, assessing needs, assessing how you cope with stress and more!

 ~Analysis of movie clips. This is a wonderful way to learn! You will watch many short movie clips throughout this course from familiar films (about 3 minutes each) and I will analyze couple interactions. For example, I will analyze a few movie clips where you witness a couple arguing. I will show you why and how the argument began, why it escalated and what to do differently. 

~Essential exercises throughout the course to deepen your learning and understanding of relationships.

~ Lifetime access to all of the material (except for the movie clips, see FAQ). 

Frequently asked questions:

1. What if I take this course and my relationship doesn't improve?

Learning takes time, especially relationship learning. Keep in mind that you will be learning new ways of communicating and new ways to understand your relationship. While you will learn things that you can immediately apply to improve your relationship, there will be other aspects of your learning that will take time. It is a commitment to wanting to grow your relationship. It is like many things in life, we are trained for jobs and we keep learning new things. We learn new things all the time even with hobbies! We seek out learning in our work and hobbies! Anything that we want to do well in life, we have to learn how to do it well. Taking this course puts you on a very important path of becoming a 'growth-oriented person'.

2. If I need a course to improve my relationship, doesn't that mean it's not a good relationship?

Absolutely not!! It is a mistake to believe that relationships that are in turmoil are bad relationships. More often than not, it is simply a relationship that needs guidance. The problem is - no one has taught us how to be in a relationship. We are expected to know how to have a successful relationship without ever being taught! That is incredibly unfair to both of you.

And, your relationship does not need to be in turmoil to take this course. Start now, before any major challenges begin.

3. Do I need to take this course with my partner? 

No, you do not need to take this with your partner. You may decide to take this alone and that is perfectly fine. You will be learning and applying new ideas to your relationship and your partner can learn from you. It is sort of like a 'trickle effect', your learning can trickle toward your partner and your partner can learn too! And of course, your partner can take it at a later time (you will have this course forever!) If you decide to take it together, you can do it together or even do it 'separately' together.

4. I'm already in therapy, how is this different?

Taking a course is a different way of learning. If you are in therapy, this course will complement the work that you are already doing. You can process what you learn in this course with your therapist. Therapy and online learning work beautifully together.

5. Is this course for anyone?

Absolutely! All of us can benefit from learning how to be in a relationship. And the good news is that you can apply much of what you will learn in this course to other relationships as well.

6. Is it really worth the expense?

When our relationships are in turmoil, it makes it challenging to function productively in other areas in your life. Ask yourself this "what is the cost of not getting the guidance and support regarding your relationship?" The financial and emotional cost of divorce and relationship endings are high - too high.

Healthy marriages are good for couples’ mental and physical health. They are also good for children; growing up in a happy home protects children from mental, physical, educational and social problems. However, about 40 to 50 percent of married couples in the United States divorce. The divorce rate for subsequent marriages is even higher.

This course is the synthesis of thousands of hours of my work with clients since 1996, and it offers information, guidance, support, and tangible tools that you will have forever, and three sessions with me is more than the cost of this course.

And keep in mind, we cannot be expected to be successful in anything without learning how to do so.

7. Is this course religiously affiliated?

No, this course is not religious affiliated. Any and all faiths and those who do not follow a particular faith can benefit from taking this course.

 8. How long do I have access to the course?

You will have lifetime access to this course. The only thing that I cannot guarantee lifetime access is the 'movie clips'. I do not have control over access to the clips. If you are still uncertain, you can contact me directly by using the contact form at the bottom of this page and ask me any brief questions that you have about the course.

13. What are the 21 lessons?

Unit One: Understanding Marriage: How to keep a strong connection:

This unit contains 5 lessons where you will learn how to create and maintain trust & express your needs in a way that can be heard, you will learn about intimacy and how to deepen your connection with each other, and you will learn how to navigate your relationship when faced with day-to-day life's challenges as well as major life challenges.

Unit Two: Understanding gender differences & how they affect your relationship: 

This unit contains 2 lessons where you will learn the challenges that men and women go through regarding communication. This will be taught through understanding the complex challenges men and women go through. You will learn how to 'partner' in your relationship where I will teach what partnering is and what it is not.

Unit Three: The Complexities of communication: 

This unit contains 6 lessons in which you will learn and gain necessary self-awareness. You will also learn the skills of validation and empathy which are vital for connection and growth in a relationship. You will also learn about blame and projection, two challenges that appear in all relationships, how to recognize when they appear and how to respond in productive ways to blame and projection.

Unit Four: How to resolve conflict: 

This unit contains 3 lessons in which you will learn how to engage in healthy conflict. You will learn how to shift from angry words to expression of feeling.

Unit Five: Challenges in relationships: 

This unit contains 5 lessons in which you will learn about emotional triggers which is one of the biggest pitfalls to the destruction of a relationship. You will also learn how to shift from loneliness in a relationship to connection. Also, how to cope with differences, stay connected if you have children, and how to heal the hurt both of you have endured.

Unit Six: How to heal the hurt in your relationship: 

This unit contains 4 lessons in which you will learn to recognize when you've hurt someone, how to heal hurt with a meaningful apology as well as learning how to heal when you have hurt someone. Finally, you will learn how to gain acceptance of your relationship.

Partnering in Marriage:

Love & Understanding

Do you keep having the same arguments again & again?

Do you say "we need to learn to communicate"

Do you feel lost and don't know how to make your relationship better?

Do you crave a deeper connection?

Do you feel that your partner never wants to talk about your relationship?

Do you keep thoughts and feelings inside because you fear that sharing will cause an argument? 

Have you been hurt and struggle to repair your hurt?

If so, you are in the right place. This course is to guide you toward creating a deepened connection in your relationship.

I learned very quickly in my work as a therapist that couples benefit from learning how to stay in love, learning how to connect, learning how to communicate, and gain self-awareness & insight. I have created this course to guide you to learn all of these necessary tools to grow your relationship! 

Based on over two decades of work with couples, teaching college students and focus of study on relationships in my doctoral program - I have created this course for you. 

Learning with Movie Clips!

I mentioned learning with movie clips and I would like to share a New York Times Article with you. The article discusses research about the benefit of watching movies to strengthen a relationship!

What you will receive: 

  ~ 24 lessons divided into 6 units

  ~ 10 exclusive podcasts, I discuss various relationship topics such as: understanding what is the real meaning behind hurtful words, repairing and rebuilding trust after you've been hurt, the impact of technology on relationships, roadblocks to empathy and discussion on loneliness in marriage ...just to name a few. 

   ~ Online quizzes to gain self-awareness, assessing trust in your relationship, assessing needs, assessing how you cope with stress and more!

 ~Analysis of movie clips. This is a wonderful way to learn! You will watch many short movie clips throughout this course from familiar films (about 3 minutes each) and I will analyze couple interactions. For example, I will analyze a few movie clips where you witness a couple arguing. I will show you why and how the argument began, why it escalated and what to do differently. 

~Essential exercises throughout the course to deepen your learning and understanding of relationships.

~ Lifetime access to all of the material (except for the movie clips, see FAQ). 

Frequently asked questions:

1. What if I take this course and my relationship doesn't improve?

Learning takes time, especially relationship learning. Keep in mind that you will be learning new ways of communicating and new ways to understand your relationship. While you will learn things that you can immediately apply to improve your relationship, there will be other aspects of your learning that will take time. It is a commitment to wanting to grow your relationship. It is like many things in life, we are trained for jobs and we keep learning new things. We learn new things all the time even with hobbies! We seek out learning in our work and hobbies! Anything that we want to do well in life, we have to learn how to do it well. Taking this course puts you on a very important path of becoming a 'growth-oriented person'.

2. If I need a course to improve my relationship, doesn't that mean it's not a good relationship?

Absolutely not!! It is a mistake to believe that relationships that are in turmoil are bad relationships. More often than not, it is simply a relationship that needs guidance. The problem is - no one has taught us how to be in a relationship. We are expected to know how to have a successful relationship without ever being taught! That is incredibly unfair to both of you.

And, your relationship does not need to be in turmoil to take this course. Start now, before any major challenges begin.

3. Do I need to take this course with my partner? 

No, you do not need to take this with your partner. You may decide to take this alone and that is perfectly fine. You will be learning and applying new ideas to your relationship and your partner can learn from you. It is sort of like a 'trickle effect', your learning can trickle toward your partner and your partner can learn too! And of course, your partner can take it at a later time (you will have this course forever!) If you decide to take it together, you can do it together or even do it 'separately' together.

4. I'm already in therapy, how is this different?

Taking a course is a different way of learning. If you are in therapy, this course will complement the work that you are already doing. You can process what you learn in this course with your therapist. Therapy and online learning work beautifully together.

5. Is this course for anyone?

Absolutely! All of us can benefit from learning how to be in a relationship. And the good news is that you can apply much of what you will learn in this course to other relationships as well.

6. Is it really worth the expense?

When our relationships are in turmoil, it makes it challenging to function productively in other areas in your life. Ask yourself this "what is the cost of not getting the guidance and support regarding your relationship?" The financial and emotional cost of divorce and relationship endings are high - too high.

Healthy marriages are good for couples’ mental and physical health. They are also good for children; growing up in a happy home protects children from mental, physical, educational and social problems. However, about 40 to 50 percent of married couples in the United States divorce. The divorce rate for subsequent marriages is even higher.

This course is the synthesis of thousands of hours of my work with clients since 1996, and it offers information, guidance, support, and tangible tools that you will have forever, and three sessions with me is more than the cost of this course.

And keep in mind, we cannot be expected to be successful in anything without learning how to do so.

7. Is this course religiously affiliated?

No, this course is not religious affiliated. Any and all faiths and those who do not follow a particular faith can benefit from taking this course.

8. Can I view this course on my phone or iPad?

Yes, this course is delivered digitally and is downloadable and viewable on all devices.

9. How long do I have access to the course?

You will have lifetime access to this course. The only thing that I cannot guarantee lifetime access is the 'movie clips'. I do not have control over access to the clips. However, in the course, the dialogue from the clips is transcribed so that you always have access to the script.

10. What if I am still uncertain? Can I contact you with any questions?

If you are still uncertain, you can contact me directly by using the contact form at the bottom of this page and ask me any brief questions that you have about the course. I do also offer telephone coaching sessions which you can learn more about by clicking here. 

11. Is this course available in countries outside of the United States?

Yes, you can pay with Paypal and purchase this course.

12. Do you offer refunds?

Because this course is delivered digitally, I do not offer refunds. 

13. What are the 21 lessons?

Unit One: Understanding Marriage: How to keep a strong connection:

This unit contains 5 lessons where you will learn how to create and maintain trust & express your needs in a way that can be heard, you will learn about intimacy and how to deepen your connection with each other, and you will learn how to navigate your relationship when faced with day-to-day life's challenges as well as major life challenges.

Unit Two: Understanding gender differences & how they affect your relationship: 

This unit contains 2 lessons where you will learn the challenges that men and women go through regarding communication. This will be taught through understanding the complex challenges men and women go through. You will learn how to 'partner' in your relationship where I will teach what partnering is and what it is not.

Unit Three: The Complexities of communication: 

This unit contains 6 lessons in which you will learn and gain necessary self-awareness. You will also learn the skills of validation and empathy which are vital for connection and growth in a relationship. You will also learn about blame and projection, two challenges that appear in all relationships, how to recognize when they appear and how to respond in productive ways to blame and projection.

Unit Four: How to resolve conflict: 

This unit contains 3 lessons in which you will learn how to engage in healthy conflict. You will learn how to shift from angry words to expression of feeling.

Unit Five: Challenges in relationships: 

This unit contains 5 lessons in which you will learn about emotional triggers which is one of the biggest pitfalls to the destruction of a relationship. You will also learn how to shift from loneliness in a relationship to connection. Also, how to cope with differences, stay connected if you have children, and how to heal the hurt both of you have endured.

Unit Six: How to heal the hurt in your relationship: 

This unit contains 4 lessons in which you will learn to recognize when you've hurt someone, how to heal hurt with a meaningful apology as well as learning how to heal when you have hurt someone. Finally, you will learn how to gain acceptance of your relationship.